tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1640489454405982637.post3464950505215420993..comments2023-10-20T02:43:42.686-07:00Comments on Fashionably Later: Surgical Oncologist # 2 update --- part 2Kayleighhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15347199277007746114noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1640489454405982637.post-42659134338040217232009-05-07T23:09:00.000-07:002009-05-07T23:09:00.000-07:00I'm glad you are looking for a doctor that wil...I'm glad you are looking for a doctor that will be more willing to explain treatment options and not dismiss your concerns or your lifestyle. My relatives who suffered from breast cancer were lucky to share a wonderful physician and later the same oncologist who became very familiar with our family's health history over multiple decades of treatment, and the positive relationship really made the process much smoother & less painful. I hope that you find a physician who is a great match for you.Karihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13212083582840025605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1640489454405982637.post-40474209319400014832009-05-07T08:44:00.000-07:002009-05-07T08:44:00.000-07:00I came across your blog by accident. However, I am...I came across your blog by accident. However, I am soo sorry to read about your situation. My mother had cancer three times and is a survivor so don't give up hope! Also, I am not sure where you went in NYC but please try Sloan Kettering. My mother went to other doctors whose opinions were horrific and were quite uncaring. She had bladder cancer - a non SK doc suggested taking it the entire bladder out. She went to SK and now today has her bladder. She found wonderful, compassionate doctors at SK. I hope your bad experience wasn't there. <br /><br />You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1640489454405982637.post-27147308532114999352009-05-07T06:22:00.000-07:002009-05-07T06:22:00.000-07:00Kayleigh--- Did a genetic counselor do the BRCA te...Kayleigh--- Did a genetic counselor do the BRCA test? Did they go over all the implications of the BRCA test? Pending those results, it could change you treatment options... email me if you want more info, otherwise, a GREAT resource is facingourrisk.org This website really saved my sanity when my mom passed away. We got her positive BRCA test the day after her funeral. Having a compassionate genetic counselor was key in delivering the news-- and going over MY options as someone that was 31 and had a 50% chance of a BRCA mutation! Please email me if you have any questions about the BRCA component.... Much love you to on your journey, Kayleigh....Lorie and Melaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12686951656727165969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1640489454405982637.post-5392791341821746542009-05-07T04:58:00.000-07:002009-05-07T04:58:00.000-07:00it's tragic that talent and bedside manner don't a...it's tragic that talent and bedside manner don't always go hand in hand. how can we entrust someone with our lives if they are flamers! <br /><br />i am happy that there is a #3... <br />and i'm confident that she will give you the fresh perspective that you need and deserve!<br /><br />healing vibes~<br />ChuckChuck Dilmorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02943387105378540037noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1640489454405982637.post-69207324342011206922009-05-06T22:23:00.000-07:002009-05-06T22:23:00.000-07:00I think you hit the nail on the head. Regardless o...I think you hit the nail on the head. Regardless of what these doctors are like as people (or lack thereof!), go with the one you believe knows what s/he is talking about. <br /><br />I have probably referred to this often, but when my 14 year old son was diagnosed with double major curves of his spine (my reason for blogging (!!); his curves were bad enough that he could have had spinal cord damage within 12 months) we saw the best of the best surgeons. And he was an absolute asshole, the worst of the lot. But, I think, in some wierd way his arrogance and determination with how good he was gave me confidence that my son would get through the surgeries. And, even though he was annoyed at all the questions that these 'medico' parents were asking (he even rolled his eyes after a couple of questions my husband posed) we were so glad to have gone ahead with him. Would I ever invite him over to dinner? Not on my life!Mervathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14482411783035224286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1640489454405982637.post-74132349240518347692009-05-06T17:53:00.000-07:002009-05-06T17:53:00.000-07:00Thanks La Belette -- you put it all so well I have...Thanks La Belette -- you put it all so well I have nothing to add, lol! <br /><br />Long story but the most egotistical jerk of a doc was one that saved my DH's life once many years ago...like you we put up with it because we felt the care he gave was excellent. I'd do alot right now to feel like I was in "good hands" -- but neither of these guys felt quite like I would be.<br /><br />Thanks for always understanding :)Kayleighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15347199277007746114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1640489454405982637.post-29804475769791439112009-05-06T17:49:00.000-07:002009-05-06T17:49:00.000-07:00Thanks Sal, thanks notSupermum -- it is frustratin...Thanks Sal, thanks notSupermum -- it is frustrating but I just have a feeling "my" doctor is out there.<br /><br />Trace & Diane - (hugs) I totally understand not knowing what to say...sometimes there really isn't anything to say. But just knowing you two and so many, many other wonderful people are thinking about me, that you care and are concerned, well, that's more than enough and means the world.<br /><br />Thank you :)Kayleighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15347199277007746114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1640489454405982637.post-27164826308453172442009-05-06T17:47:00.000-07:002009-05-06T17:47:00.000-07:00I so hoped that this doctor was going to be the on...I so hoped that this doctor was going to be the one who you liked and who was the right fit for you. I know when we underwent IVF I put up with a lot of ego to get the best MD and I also dealt with a whole lot of attitude. I do wish that doctors would get over themselves and understand the level of stress their patients are under. I have an unfair bias that women doctors are more understanding and sensitive.<br /><br />Thank you so much for updating. You, as you know,are in my thoughts often. I send lots of love and hugs.La Belette Rougehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686717070120116918noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1640489454405982637.post-88708083204654940102009-05-06T16:56:00.000-07:002009-05-06T16:56:00.000-07:00My prayers thoughts and prayers go out to you and ...My prayers thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family Kayleigh. I cannot imagine how difficult this must be and i'm at a loss for words. i haven't known what to say for the past few days but i thought it was important that you knew that you remain in my prayers...*Diane*https://www.blogger.com/profile/04433687789745336132noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1640489454405982637.post-17693725455493462962009-05-06T16:32:00.000-07:002009-05-06T16:32:00.000-07:00Hi K, sorry I haven't been able to leave more comm...Hi K, sorry I haven't been able to leave more comments lately, but I am definitely reading all your posts. So glad you're getting multiple opinions, even if these first two docs are a little wacked out. I can't imagine how confusing and crazy this must all be. I am thinking of you and continue to pray for you...Tracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05813787239217658356noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1640489454405982637.post-7028637133313331592009-05-06T13:48:00.000-07:002009-05-06T13:48:00.000-07:00Doctor 2 sounds dreadful, and not a good fit you a...Doctor 2 sounds dreadful, and not a good fit you at all. Give him the bum's rush, as they say 'round here. Surely to God Doctor #3 can't be any worse? <br /><br />Keep taking the tablets :-) xxJeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00124374747737466986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1640489454405982637.post-45132229853926950262009-05-06T13:30:00.000-07:002009-05-06T13:30:00.000-07:00How infuriating and confusing. Here's hoping the n...How infuriating and confusing. Here's hoping the next doc is more respectful and helpful ... fingers crossed.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com